Very true! And I think I battle that sometimes in my own life. I "give" to our oldest daughter and then tend to try and tell her what to do with that "gift". Yeah, I totally know and recognize that in myself... Pray for me!
It really makes me think. I don't mean like giving a birthday gift, or something like that. I'm talking about giving someone something significant - something important to you, or maybe a chunk of money.
Do I trust the person with it? If not, I shouldn't give it. But if I do, I need to give it and LET GO. If it's money, they might make mistakes. If it's a "treasure", well, they might not treasure it like I do. Do I care more about the thing or the person? LET IT GO.
Back when we had little babies a friend told me that a relative "gave" her a very special Christening blanket, or something like that. But she knew if it got stained, or dirty, or USED she'd be in the doghouse with the giver, so she never used it.
I told her she ought to just give it back. The person hadn't really let go of it. Just give it back.
That's the kind of thing I'm thinking of, I guess.
Yes, with our daughter it has been MONEY and family heirlooms. I am going to let go of it from now on. Because (I already realized I did this) you have made me actually TALK about that fault! :) Thank YOU!
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You sound like me when I preach to myself. Hope you're OK.
Everything is fine. It's a rant from months ago that I didn't feel I could publish then. Too close to the situation...
Some people are excellent givers. I want to be one of them. To give freely, without strings, conditions, or obligations. My parents are like that.
Other people give a "gift", but...
Yah.
Very true! And I think I battle that sometimes in my own life. I "give" to our oldest daughter and then tend to try and tell her what to do with that "gift". Yeah, I totally know and recognize that in myself... Pray for me!
It really makes me think. I don't mean like giving a birthday gift, or something like that. I'm talking about giving someone something significant - something important to you, or maybe a chunk of money.
Do I trust the person with it? If not, I shouldn't give it. But if I do, I need to give it and LET GO. If it's money, they might make mistakes. If it's a "treasure", well, they might not treasure it like I do. Do I care more about the thing or the person? LET IT GO.
Back when we had little babies a friend told me that a relative "gave" her a very special Christening blanket, or something like that. But she knew if it got stained, or dirty, or USED she'd be in the doghouse with the giver, so she never used it.
I told her she ought to just give it back. The person hadn't really let go of it. Just give it back.
That's the kind of thing I'm thinking of, I guess.
I want to give freely, not conditionally.
Yes, with our daughter it has been MONEY and family heirlooms. I am going to let go of it from now on. Because (I already realized I did this) you have made me actually TALK about that fault! :) Thank YOU!
Agreed!
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