I started to write this months ago, but didn't want to publish it when it was fresh. I certainly don't want any of my friends wondering if I'm talking about them. I'm not. In fact, I'm not thinking of any one person in particular... though there was definitely an impetus for writing this. And I can guarantee you it's no one who reads the blog. (And it has nothing to do with some fun boys who are over here today!)
What do you all think?
How do you balance Parent One's (good) desire to be 'reaching out to the outcast' with Parent 2's (good) concern to train the kids to choose their friends wisely?
P1 has a lot more compassion than P2. P1 encourages the boys to befriend and spend time with the kids that other kids avoid. P1 does not buy into cozying up to "the beautiful people" and wants the boys to reach out to the... awkward, the outcasts. P1 says things like, "It sure looks like *** could use a friend. Let's invite him over to play."
P2 takes a different view. P2 also does not want to show favoritism (cozying up to "the beautiful people"). P2 also encourages the boys to be kind to newcomers and outsiders, but wants the boys to be discerning in their friendships. Frankly, sometimes there are good reasons that certain people don't have many friends, and "lie down with dogs, get up with fleas" comes to mind.
So that probably blew my cover. I was trying to be fair and unbiased in presenting our different viewpoints.
What do you think?
I've been skimming through Proverbs and need to spend more time there, working this out. What first comes to mind are verses like these. (I'm writing out the references because if you hover over them, the verse should appear in a little box.)
I know there are many more that illuminate different facets of friendship. How do you all live this out?
UPDATE: I have some great and wise friends and commentors! Feel free to add to the discussion. I'm going to be busy this week and have some other posts scheduled, but I hope to be coming back to this later.