Friday, June 8, 2012

A Friday... Momologue

You thought I was going to say "Brain Dump" didn't you?  Sadly, there's too little there to risk a dump.  If I tried, I'd probably be left as empty as the gas tank in my van.  It's been that kind of week.  *sigh*  So instead, you get a rant.

It's about modesty.  And - shock and awe - it's not about women!  It's men!  And boys!

And I need your help.  I'm reaching out to my bloggy friends - especially the few male readers I have - for advice.  Here's the situation:

Kerry hired a guy to do some work for him.  He'll probably be around for a couple of weeks.  He seems like a nice guy.  Young.  Friendly.  Hipster.  I walked out to the office to use the copier, and guess what I saw?  Sagging pants, and gray and black striped briefs. Way more information than I ever wanted.

Really?  What gives?  I know, I know, I've never been one to keep on top of the fashion trends, but who started this?  And why???  Do guys think females find this attractive?

News flash:  NO.  We don't.  I don't know about other women, but when I see six inches of your underwear, I think two things:

1.  Your I.Q. just dropped 20 points you really couldn't afford to lose.  And,

2.  Trashy, and on purpose.

And don't tell me you're just skinny and pants won't stay up on you.  My 94-pound grandpa was SKINNY, and I never saw his underwear.  Get a belt.  Get some suspenders.  Or - hey! - I've got a staple gun and I can fix that for you!

Underwear is supposed to be just that UNDER-wear.  Same rule, whether you're a guy or a gal.

*Whew*  Okay, I guess it was a little rant ;D

So here's my dilemma - I'm usually a pretty straight shooter, but this isn't comfortable territory for me.  I just met the guy yesterday, and we'd like to all get along, so he can help Kerry with this job.  .

So what do I say?

Obviously not, Option 1, which is my rant, above.

Option 2

There are conversations I never wanted to have, and this one of them.  I never wanted to talk with you about your underwear.  But more than I don't want to talk about your underwear, I don't want to SEE your underwear.  And it's not because I'm a prude.  I live with four males and I've seen my share of men's underwear.  It doesn't shock me.

But what DOES shock me is that any reasonably intelligent human gets up in the morning and thinks showing off his underwear in public is a good decision. 

We are trying to raise our three young men with dignity and honor.  You can do so much better.  And at least around here, that's the standard.

(Probably way too wordy.)


We're pretty casual around here.  Not much of a dress code.  Except this:

My family and I don't see your underwear.  Ever.

Option 4?  5?  6?

Help a sister out, here.


Crystal in Lynden said...

I like #3. Straight to the point.

peacework designs said...

I actually really like option #3. I was just going to say, 'pull up your pants'. I think I might use yours someday, though. Sagging pants drive me NUTS!

tammy said...

I like #3 too. Direct and to the point. When my son tried to start doing this, I would tell him, "You don't see my underwear hanging out of my pants and I don't want to see yours, go put on a belt." (well, we told him a lot more - like how pants sagging started in the prison systems as a sign of "availability" and if he wanted to act like he was in prison, we'd work him the same ... but then again, he is ours). Good luck and I don't blame you one bit. Hopefully he's respectful, didn't realize his pants situation is disrespectful, and corrects it without a word said. You could always leave a belt laying out for him too, maybe that will get the point across. ; ) Good luck!

Choate Family said...

I was going to suggest buying him a belt until I read Tammy's comment :-) Praying for your wisdom and that your boys don't try to imitate him!

Herding Grasshoppers said...

Funny thing is... he was wearing a belt. But the whole thing is a "fashion" statement.

Maybe I could leave the staple gun on his desk?! ;D

Herding Grasshoppers said...

PS Tammy - my boys (at least so far) think it looks stupid. But I LOVE your if-you-want-to-look-like-you're-in-prison-we'll-work-you-like-you-are M.O. I'll keep that in mind for my own kids, and I hope I never have to use it ;D

dlefler said...

Option 4: "I see London, I see France... DUDE - pull up your PANTS!"

I really, really don't like the saggy pants thing.

I love Tammy's idea (as a parent). As an employer, I think I'd go with the direct route - saggy pants are not professional in any sense of the word and are not acceptable. Gross.

Vivie said...

I agree.Gross.

I hate this trend too and it quite puts me off men..ugh.

I met someone very nice..he asked for a date ;) next time, he tried to be trendy..with showing underwear.Gee whiz.I didn't say anything, but I played hooky next time he asked.

I'd say, option 3 is better :) and Tammy, you made me laugh w your son's story!

Ruby said...

Straight is usually best, but perhaps it needs to come from your husband?
(You could offer a hole punch and casually mention that his belt isn't tight enough :-)

Ann said...

First, I will admit to getting a big belly laugh out of your descriptive portrayal. You have such a knack for word pictures! Love it!

Then I will agree with everyone else - quick, to the point, number 3! Praying for it to be an easy conversation!

Felicity said...

Oh boy, what a problem. I hate confronting people on issues - any issues - but this one isn't a very nice one at all. I agree with all the others - #3...